I think I know the answer: I’m a failed adult, maybe if was still a teen I could date or get laid, since you don’t need anything to impress or really attract the other sex… As an adult without money, social life and social skills that is unobtainable.
Edit: this is NOT an “asking for advice” post, just answer the question, don’t try to analyse me like a damn specimen.
My father never loved himself yet he “secured” my mother for 11 years.
Your comment speaks words about how toxic your mindset is. Therapy would be a great place to start.
What the hell are you talking about
It is unlikely your father would have boiled his relationship with your mother down to him having “secured” her. It is an unusual term to use. It’s not that it’s not technically true. It’s that it breezes past all the ways most people refer to relationships and instead characterizes it as one way possession of property. That’s what people are reacting to. In what community have you immersed yourself or what mindset have you gotten yourself into where that’s the first word of choice.