My husband of 17 years is a judge. Recently multiple people have come out publicly with their stories about my husband because all the complaints they have filed with the Council which deals with this have been ignored throughout the years - no investigation opened. My husband has always kept me in the dark about his work - finances, so let’s just say I have my reasons to believe the allegations. The most horrific one I’ve heard is my husband ruled that a 12-year-old consented to having sex with an adult (legal age of consent at the time was 15 in our country), so there was no conviction. The accused in this trial was wealthy. I didn’t know about this until now. Frankly I’m completely disgusted with him.
from what you laid out it sounds like textbook abuse and rape. can you get more facts about the case? or ask him why he classified it as sex with a minor?
if it was indeed textbook abuse and rape which he classified as a lesser offense, that’s something I might not be able to look past.
It is. The family tried to appeal to the Court of Appeal because the ruling makes no sense legally. Got dismissed. They say it’s because their own independent investigation found that husband has friends and connections in all the right places, which is why all the complains of corruption also went ignored. Asked him about this ruling: said he doesn’t justify himself to anyone, the ruling is the justification, what you see it’s what it is and he won’t discuss any further. Oh, and now he’s suing the people who came forward with libel and defamation. 0 remorse of any kind.
You’re his wife and this is extremely important to you. If my spouse took this attitude with me I’d be gone before the echoes finished ringing, let alone if they had also refused to punish a child rapist.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I can only begin to imagine the emotions you’re going through finding out about it all 😞
oof. so the only thing I can think of are:
he relates with this form of abuse because of some previous experience
he was bribed
I’m not sure what to tell you. if you tell him this is a deal breaker, and he doesn’t address it to your satisfaction, then you have your answer.
Well, that completely dismisses my theory of threats.
Not sure about you, but I wouldn’t care whether he was bribed or he simply believes this was the “right” thing to do. It even sounds like you were doing fine financially, and greed won’t justify this. And he doesn’t even seem to regret it.