Hi. I have a 20-year-old daughter. Recently she met this Russian guy online and they started dating. On Thursday she flew to Istanbul (from our city of Bucharest); on Friday from Istanbul to Moscow. She didn’t tell us she was going to Russia. We found out after she was already there. Since yesterday I can’t stop worrying given the whole situation in the region.
Have you tried meditation?
On another note, your question is how to stop worrying but reading between the lines I get the feeling you are also asking how to get her to come home.
If so, she’s 20 and therefore an adult. So your role needs to be as a trusted advisor rather than rule maker. Have you tried discussing your fears with her in a way that makes it clear that a) ultimately what she does is her decision to make, and b) you will love her regardless of what decision she makes? She’s much more likely to listen if she feels that you are trying to provide alternate perspectives for her to weigh and balance without trying to control the outcome.
I haven’t actually. She’s leaving on 7 Dec (to Istanbul) and arriving home on 8. I have, but she’s the kind of person who if she really wants to do something - she’ll do it no matter what others think.