To keep it short: my ex-wife cheated on me with this guy, we divorced, she married him immediately after. Since January we’ve been co-parenting, she has our son (14 years old) for 2 weeks & I have him for 2 weeks. Her now husband is wealthy, and for the winter holidays they plan on going to the Maldives for 3 weeks (I agreed to give up 1 week of my 2 weeks; gonna get +1 week with son after the vacation). Apparently son has been asking his mom and stepdad if I can come as well. So ex-wife calls me and asks me if I’d like to go, all expenses paid by them, just to be with our son and have some fun - and let’s “put all the bad blood behind”. I told her I’ll think about it, but honestly I don’t think I’d feel comfortable. At the same time going would make son extremely happy obviously. Idk.
Why is noone mentioning the fact that the trip would be paid by the other guy?
Personally I would never accept that in a billion years. Is he trying to buy your forgiveness or something? Gross.
Buy forgiveness is the best case scenario. Power flex of how much money he has is more likely.
Jesus you people are so insecure. And I have relevant childhood trauma. Work on your shit.
Proper analysis is now “insecure” m
Making everything about money and power when there’s a child and feelings involved is pretty insecure, yeah. Some benefit of the doubt is warranted.
Your analysis that they’re just “flexing” by doing a nice gesture for a child of a divorce that they are involved in, says more about you than anyone else in this situation.