Jealous of how close you are & how much time you spend together. I’m in this situation myself, involving my (second) wife & my son.
Jealous of how close you are & how much time you spend together. I’m in this situation myself, involving my (second) wife & my son.
Well, for example: one time my son came into my room to read me some of his writing (he writes for fun) and I was in bed watching TV, so he joined me with his laptop. Wife was out at the time and made a huge scene about my son being in our bed (?) - in private, so son didn’t hear anything. I thought the whole thing was very weird. Or when my son would cook and he’d bring me some, she’d say things such as oh, you don’t like my cooking, then have him cook all of your meals. That kind of jealous. It’s a very uncomfortable situation.
She may have self esteem issues. She could be codependent.
My stepmother did these sorts of things in the beginning, but she was still in her twenties at that time. I didn’t understand then (being just a kid ofc) but I’ve forgiven her now. And to her credit she’s mellowed quite a bit as well. But this peace was many many years in the making. I think you both should seek couple’s therapy to raise and discuss both of your issues in a safe loving space, and it may become clear during those sessions that she needs to also have individual therapy.
If she balks at couple’s therapy, then THAT is a red flag.