• bcgm3@lemmy.world
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    11 days ago

    Yeah, please. Why be deceptive? It serves no one.

    Better yet, take responsibility for your own pleasure. Play an active role in getting what you want out of the act. Communicate. Why wouldn’t you?

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      I’ve heard from a lot of women that a portion of men take any attempt to provide suggestions as a direct attack on their masculinity

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        Well that’s just two reasons not to date them since those guys all probably listen to Tate.

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        Not just men, I’m a lesbian and I’ve experienced this with women too. Some people are really sensitive to constructive criticism especially during intimacy.

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          especially during intimacy.

          Well that does make sense when you think about it. That’s when you’re at your most vulnerable. I personally wouldn’t mind because lust overpowers all of my other emotions during sex lmao. Though for some people, I think it would be best to talk about it after the deed is done.

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            Yup that’s definitely why. And a lot of people other than the hyper sexual have a lot of insecurities around sex even if they didn’t grow up in a culture that made it taboo.

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        This happens when providing suggestions to anyone about anything when you’re dealing with an insecure person.