Meme: Gif of Pedro Pascal and Nicholas Cage riding in a convertible with the top down and looking at each other. Pedro’s expression looks like he just shared something humorous. His caption is, “Abuse survivors sharing funny stories about their childhood.” Nicholas’ caption is, “Everyone else,” and looks bewildered.

  • ChicoSuave@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Damn, I just recently learned that my stories about growing up are considered trauma dumps by my partner. It makes sharing stories of getting through childhood something I can’t talk about anymore. It’s hard to talk to people when so much of what forged me was the heat of short tempers.

    • I'm back on my BS 🤪@lemmy.autism.placeOP
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      3 days ago

      Oh no! I’m sorry that you’re in that position. Maybe you can find an avenue to discuss them with someone? I read (actually heard) the book The Body Keeps the Score. Even if you repress the memories or think you’ve moved on, that stuff is in there affecting everything, whether you’re aware of it or not.

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        Just wanna give a big ol’ +1 to The Body Keeps The Score. My partner read it and it was a game changer for her.

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    4 days ago

    “Child abuse hahaha funny” 🤦‍♂️

    And what looks like AI description as well. For fuck sake.

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      No, that’s not what this gif is about.

      It’s commenting on the fact that sometimes abuse survivors share traumatic stories as if they’re normal or even funny, when in reality, compared to a normal upbringing they’re actually incredibly depressing or traumatic stories. Because to them, those stories were the normal seeming parts.

      So sometimes they’ll do this with no sense that it’s a traumatic story - because it’s far from the worst things they experienced.

      When this happens, it has the mood of the two characters in this gif. So hope that explains it for you.

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        I know it’s bad when I rattle off some shit, deadpan, to my therapist and she furrows her brow like a disappointed teacher before saying “that is a fascinating upbringing”

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          Yep, or when you’re doing EMDR and you open your eyes and your therapist is crying. That’s how you know you’ve hit the good shit 👉😎👉

          Thankfully, that only happened once. It honestly made me feel better, it was incredibly validating.

    • zea@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      The caption looks fine to me, and the premise of the joke makes sense speaking as someone with a rough childhood.