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ngl, I’d think that someone with the word “water” tattooed on them in a sharpie style like that is cool. It just has a vibe I like.

Brainrot.

Yep, I put hundreds of hours into Red Alert 2 as a youngun. I would absolutely play the shit out of a remake, provided a map maker was furnished or created by the community. I fucking loved custom RA2 maps.

Grr, stupid autocorrect! Thanks for the heads-up, imma fix that now.

I was one of those men, although I was never overtly sexist or misogynistic. I had a quieter form of toxic masculinity, where I always had to have an answer to every question, always had to be dependable and available, always had to be tough and strong. My father raised me that way and spoke out whenever I stepped outside of those lines. Once I moved out on my own, I took up my dad’s place and whipped myself whenever I wasn’t good enough. It took years of failure, pain, and suffering before I really questioned what I was raised to be. From there, it took years of therapy and love from a wonderful person to get to the point where I only occasionally find some of that old programming.

Don’t get me wrong, toxic masculinity is not an excuse for bad behavior. Every person is ultimately responsible for their well-being and for how they treat others. My actions as a young adult caused some real harm, and that’s on me. “Buckling down” and working hard for some shithead boss is not, in general, very good for someone’s well-being. However, it’s a lesson that many boys are taught, and it can be very difficult to break out of childhood conditioning.

Yeah, it’s not (in my opinion) the best way to get the idea across. I read that and immediately thought of how it felt when I was emotionally repressed. To me, a de-scrotumed testicle sounds about right, because even the softest and most gentle care was still rough and painful. I can see how someone could read something much less kind in that phrase, however.

Please reconsider this. The sensitivity that OP is talking about is like the hunger that a starving person feels. Men who haven’t ever been allowed to deal with their feelings will be more sensitive as their bodies scream at them to acknowledge years resentment, burden, anger, anxiety, and fear. A man committing suicide to get away from emotional deprivation is like a starving person committing suicide even though they could have access to food. Men don’t have to be providers for others, and it they choose to, they don’t have to suffer silently and thanklessly under a yolk as the world whips them. You can take care of someone while also getting your emotional needs met.

Hey, I think some nuance was lost over the imperfect medium of text. Here’s what OP is getting at—when someone ignores their emotions, they don’t just go away. Emotions are just signals from the body about what is good for it and what is bad for it. Emotions are the body telling someone what it needs. If emotions are ignored, then the body isn’t getting what it needs, so it sends stronger signals. When I don’t eat, I get hungrier (until I start starving and my body begins eating itself, anyways). When I don’t tend to an injury, it hurts more. When I’m resentful and I don’t do anything about my feelings of resentment, those feelings grow in strength and force.

Any person who has been told by society that they should disregard their emotions will have a body which is screaming its discontent at them. I’m a man and I was raised to hide and repress my feelings (although I was never really into extreme toxic masculinity). It was fucking agonizing, and I became so, so sensitive to things. It took years of therapy for me to learn that the body keeps the score and that I had to feel and express my feelings, just like I had to eat or bandage a cut.

Anyone who has suffered from emotional self-neglect will be sensitive. Western society pushes men to neglect themselves, so those men will be sensitive. That’s all OP meant. Men who accept their emotions for what they are and tend to them will be much less sensitive and will almost certainly be happier people.

when you go to the dentist, the dentist and/or hygenist will usually work with two tools. If they need to rinse your teeth, they’ll first blast them with some ice cold water, and then they’ll stick a straw-looking thing in your mouth to suck up the water they just skeeted in. Similarly, when they’re drilling your teeth, they’ll use the little straw fellow to suck up the tooth dust so you don’t get weird shit in your lungs.

It’s like an oral shop vac, where your mouth is the mess. They use them so they don’t have to stop and let you spit. OP has Problems™ and wants to stick one of these things in their nose.

OP, please, just blow your nose or take a decongestant if you’re sick (NOT oral phenylephrine because that shit is useless). If you avoid blowing your nose because you get bloody noses all the time you can actually get that part of the inside of your nose cauterized. I used to get at least one nosebleed a day, and it was genuinely life changing for child me when the doctor stuck that swab in my nose. It was painful for a sec or two, but I only get nosebleeds once or twice a year now.

EDIT: netti pots are good, just make sure you practice good hygiene with those. Very hot and steamy showers and putting damp heat on your sinuses is also quite helpful in my experience as a lifelong severe allergy sufferer.

touch foo; tar cvf foo.tar foo

My fucking autocorrect decided that cvf should have been xvf. I caught it before I hit enter to close out the code block, but wtf? When did my keyboard develop opinions on command args‽

Yeah, every now and then I take a step back and say “what the fuck did they build?” when dealing with some of the GNU tools. Twenty minutes later I’ll start complaining about how the BSD version of something from coreutils lacks a GNU argument that would make my life about 83% easier.

It’s like a sick sort of Stockholm Syndrome. I do genuinely like GNU coreutils, but there’s some baffling shit present.

The issue is that browsers don’t release much memory back to the system when it’s needed. I wish they’d work more like the Linux kernel’s VFS caching later, but they don’t (and might not be able to. For example, I do don’t think the Linux kernel has good APIs for such a use case).

The issue is that browsers don’t release much memory back to the system when it’s needed. I wish they’d work more like the Linux kernel’s VFS caching later, but they don’t (and might not be able to. For example, I do don’t think the Linux kernel has good APIs for such a use case).

The problem is that the extra RAM used by a browser is held on an exclusive basis and so is not nicely reclaimable by the kernel. I love that Linux caches the shit out of files in RAM, it’s great. It’s also great that it can release that memory when I launch a chundering dumpster fire application that eats all of my RAM. If a browser had been holding that memory, then the godawful Linux OOM killer would have launched, halted all threads on the system, walked the entire process tree, and SIGKILLed something (probably not a browser tab) before letting everyone else resume.

With the way memory is currently managed, a bloated browser is a liability. Cached state needs to be stored in something like a mmaped file so that the kernel can flush pages out of memory if someone else comes along with a malloc. Alternatively, there needs to be communication between a browser and a userspace OOM daemon. If the system started hitting a soft limit, then the browser could start unloading background shit more aggressively.

Free memory is wasted memory, but so is memory that can’t be used for anything else when it’s needed.

ah yiss motherfucking cryptobiotic soil! I love me some cryptobiotic soil. It’s cool stuff, and it looks really neat close-up. For anyone ever visiting national parks in southern Utah, please stay on the paths. It takes decades for cryptobiotic soil to build up, but it only takes a second for a footstep to destroy it.

For those who don’t know (including me):

Shotcut is a free, open source, cross-platform video editor.

I’m quite fond of Wandering Jewel rather than Wandering Dude.

I could see the NT kernel being okay in isolation, but the rest of Windows coming along for the ride puts the kibosh on that idea.

I used to have this problem all the time, I think it’s pretty normal. I did many years of therapy, and part of what I got out of that was an understanding of how people deal with pain and anger. The best way to change someone’s mind is to try to empathize with their position and show your understanding. Once you share context with them, you can gently explain why you feel the way you do. Sometimes, you do this and find that the other person’s point of view is a more accurate reflection of your values and you change your mind instead.

Don’t do this with bad faith actors though. just block them.

I used to have this problem all the time, I think it’s pretty normal. I did many years of therapy, and part of what I got out of that was an understanding of how people deal with pain and anger. The best way to change someone’s mind is to try to empathize with their position and show your understanding. Once you share context with them, you can gently explain why you feel the way you do. Sometimes, you do this and find that the other person’s point of view is a more accurate reflection of your values and you change your mind instead.

Don’t do this with bad faith actors though. just block them.