You didn’t say he ever claimed to be a fascist, but speaking from an outside perspective he sounds just like that without the self-label. The reason I say that is because when I was still a lib that knew jack shit of politics, my only friend group had fascists in it, the kind that will call themselves fascists without hesitation, but that are all too much of a coward to do anything. Still they would say basically everything you described in here, and even worse stuff, antisemitism was a big one among them.

When I became increasingly aware of what being a fascist actually meant and started to see through them, instead of cutting it right away I naively tried my best to change them, not realizing that was impossible. I still hate that I didn’t leave that group sooner. Being an autistic, social anxious and introverted person, I clung to the group from fear of ever feeling lonely.

I’m only now realizing how much that group fucked me up mentally and it fucking sucks.

Nowadays, while I do feel lonely, most people around me are just libs that know little or close to nothing of politics but that are all well-meaning people. My attempts at politicizing and bringing class consciousness to them have met only some success, but I’m learning along the way and I’m sure one day I’ll be able to connect better with them on that front. Most of the time I can’t even bring myself to say what I want, probably because of the way I had to act around the old group, and when I actually do say what I want, it’s like my body wants to shut down, so it’s really hard. Luckily I have a good psychologist that is slowly helping me with this.

I do want to say tho, please prioritize your well-being. As much as I completely agree with you wanting to say how much you despise Tony to his face when you leave, weight in if it is safe to do so when the time comes.

I’m an outsider here but it seems you’re going through some tough struggles. I hope you have someone outside of the family to confide in. If not, perhaps a therapist, not because there’s something wrong with you but sometimes, putting voice(instead of fingers) to these issues helps.

Can I ask how old Tony is?

I am reluctant to call my stepfather an unhinged reactionary, as he abstains from voting and seems to be unimpressed with Trump. Still, he is a propertarian: one time I jokingly told him that ‘it is an established fact that redistributing wealth from the rich to the poor increases poverty’, and he obliviously gave it a thumbs up. I was dumbfounded. Additionally, I once overheard him mocking how East Asians speak, and he referred to a mosque as a ‘goatfucker temple’ (or something like that).

That said, he doesn’t abuse me like my actual father did. He’ll get into an argument with my mom approximately once a year, but he has almost never intimidated me. He sounded intimidating one day when he asked me ‘Where’s our food?’ (I left it upstairs; he hadn’t noticed), but I don’t remember him yelling at me, at least not in anger. My actual father, on the other hand, was more like your brother, only less right‐wing. He died a few years ago, and my mom and I declined to attend his funeral.

My brother isn’t anywhere near the bad and I still only text him a few times a year; talk even less. That’s the nice thing about growing up, you can choose to ignore your family

That “Let The Gays Burn The Quickest” thing feels like something you’d find in Nazis communities or in real intense evangelical communities. But I can’t find another references to the phrase.

Friend, I understand it is entirely your choice, but I would recommend against connecting so much identifying information to your account here, or online in general. Age, university, country, general location, family size, family occupations, your brothers age so on. Combined with other hints on your account, it would be relatively easy for a lunatic to put 2 and 2 together if they really wanted to track you down online and find other accounts, or irl. With how many deranged rightists lurk here, it might not be worth it to paint such a big target on yourself.

Stay safe out there comrade.

Considering his views, statements, and character traits, he sounds like a full-on fascist to me.