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Cake day: June 24th, 2025

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  • He used to have an is_nice bool but consultants convinced Santa it isn’t future proof enough to capture the nuances of kids behaviour in today’s world, such as “nice but always is really smug about it”. But the consultants kept making PowerPoints instead of updating the backend, so now Santa also has added a new value to behaviour: “consultant-like”











  • I tried cognitive behavioural therapy which helped with a bunch of other stuff, but didn’t help me get to the root of my core challenges. I’m with one now which does the following (according to her website):

    Theoretically, I am grounded in the psychodynamic tradition and the neuroaffective understanding of attachment and emotional development.

    I realized the books I’ve read and got a lot out of may only exist in Danish: “Drop opdragelsen” and “derfor forelsker du dig aldrig i den forkerte”


  • I’ve been there. Reasons for this might be different depending on who you are. For me, I’d been hurt by the ones that I loved, and subconsciously put up a wall to protect myself so I was “prepared” in case I would get hurt again. On the flipside I also couldn’t be my most authentic self, so I felt a lot more distanced when being with friends and family. For me, a lot of talking, therapy, and books helped me tremendously, but I’m still on a journey.

    So yes, it’s normal, and it can get better.