The way I see it, free speech doesn’t mean freedom from consequences for what you say. You’re free to walk up to the friend group and act like a jackass and personally insult everyone. And they’re free to tell you to fk off and stop being friends with you and talking to you. That’s not an infringement on your right to free speech, that’s consequences for your actions.

These ‘free speech’ people act like the real world is this place where you can just approach and interrupt any conversation and enter any club without following the rules. They act like groups of like minded people getting together to share interests and ideas without wanting to constantly defend themselves and ‘debate’ their interests and beliefs is some new thing brought to us by the woke agenda.

And so they think social media should be this place where you can say whatever to whoever, wherever you want and if anyone has a problem with that, they’re just anti ‘free speech’ woke libs or some shit.

Yeah this sounds kinda like the same deal as with Fable Anniversary years ago. It also used the original game files wrapped up in the Unreal engine and modding was possible with the original tools.

Nowhere does it say fucking anything about oppression in the picture that she’s losing her shit about here. It’s something that she could’ve literally just scrolled past and gone on with her day. I’m so fucking sick of these people.

Either to be a rockstar or a game developer or an author / journalist.

Oh cool, that’s definitely encouraging, thanks.

Haha yeah I hadn’t considered that. I guess there’s always the various lines of work that involve doing something in front of the camera, if you’re that kind of person for that job (I have actually honestly considered trying something like onlyfans in the past lol, but lurking in certain creator spaces on Reddit definitely dispelled the myth of easy money in that for me, seems like giving a lot of yourself for not a lot of reward unless you’re one of the lucky few that blow up in popularity).

I had thought of this area of work. Not averse to learning something tech related (although you wouldn’t be able to tell going by the 3 times I’ve started and abandoned a programming course in my life), I just worry that being both a noob and almost 40 would count against me finding actual work. Plus, going by the other commenter, seems like a tough market right now.

On a side note, programming is something I would love to do in my downtime, to be able to finally make my game(s) lol.

Not even just a few years ago. They were screaming about right up until the idiots took over. In fact they still go on about it now but when they say “free speech”, they’re talking about being able to freely insult and degrade people on social media without consequences.

They’re not even thinking of education and access to literature and information or a free and fair press not owned by billionaires with agendas. They don’t care about university students getting dragged off in the night for their political views. They just want to say the n word without the mean internet moderator banning them.

Yeah, I’ve started switching between Active and Top 6 hours myself. Sometimes might use Top 12 hours instead. It’s still lacking in enough content to satisfy absolutely everyone’s niches or tastes all the time, and it’s not loaded with new posts every time you refresh but there’s enough to at least keep entertained through the day.

Although I hope it doesn’t stay like this forever, I want to see it grow. I feel like it’s already a little busier since I first signed up here, so hopefully it’s getting there.

This kind of question always immediately makes me think of something a friend said years ago when I was still a teen. We were talking about school and education and shit and it was on the subject of asking questions when you don’t fully understand something and he said “rather ask a stupid question and be a fool for five minutes, then keep your mouth shut and be a fool for the rest of your life.” I think it was something that his mother had told him, in their language, so I’m constructing that statement from memory but it was something close to that.

I understand. It is fucking hard. And it’s easy to dish out advice on the internet but you’re the one dealing with all of this. I’m pretty sure it’s not an equal playing field either because some people make it look easy, or have luck, or just start from more privileged positions where they don’t have to deal with the same trials and tribulations.

The way you described things in your previous post, the dating or just flirting scene honestly sounds like a nightmare these days. People offering to pay you for your company? Sounds like it’s almost a normalised thing at the moment but it’s actually creepy. And I’m making an assumption here based on knowing how the world works but I’m guessing that this has been your experience since you were a teenager.

What I’m trying to say is that the world failed you and your generation. You’ve been surrounded by predators and manipulative people and you’ve been led to believe that this is just normal and how life is. Stop me if I’m wrong. Maybe that is life now but it shouldn’t be. And you shouldn’t base your self worth on predators and pick up artists and people that evaluate you based on things like body count.

So maybe, you should take a break from relationships with other people for a little while to work on your relationship with yourself. And maybe rethink and reassess what life has taught you about others and yourself.

I definitely hear you, in fact I ended up kinda shutting myself off for years just to avoid that pain. But maybe one has to come first. Maybe if your self worth was higher, it wouldn’t be so easy to be hurt by people. People that probably didn’t deserve your company in the first place.

I did involve myself I guess in situations where things can go wrong but I never wanted that.

We live and we learn. There’s no going back and doing things differently (although I fkn wish there was), the only direction is forward. And the best that we can do is learn and grow and maybe do things differently in the future.

Not to sound too much like a fortune cookie though lol. The truth is that I suck at life myself, so I’m not sure if I’m even qualified to be giving this kind of advice. But hopefully there’s something in here that helps.

One thing that I do know is that there’s no magic words that you’re going to hear that will make the current fresh pain that you’re feeling go away. That’ll only happen with time. So hang in there, and be kind to yourself. We’re all just making it up as we go along.

I just lost something so good in my life because I made a big mistake

I saw your previous post and I just want to say, as an internet stranger that only knows what I’ve read, I think that you did nothing wrong and I hope that you reach the point where you can see that and believe it for yourself. I’ll be fair and say that at most, you both fucked up. But that’s just in the interest of fairness towards people I don’t actually know. I don’t believe it though. In fact, the way it went down, it just proves that you had good reason to not be 100% truthful at the start. And I don’t believe the results would’ve been any different anyway. The only thing that I agree with that person about is that you need to believe in your own self worth.

As for your question, let me know if you get a good answer lol. At least being able to get things off your chest on an anonymous platform and hopefully get helpful advice is the next best thing.

Game of Thrones. To me it just came across as torture porn. Just a series of awful things happening to people from one scene to the next. The schtick about different kingdoms and families vying for the throne or whatever was just the backdrop and context to rape, abuse and murder, which was the star of the show.

I love fantasy but that show didn’t do it for me in the slightest. Not interested in checking out any of that guy’s books either.

Haha same here. I’m around 5’6 or 5’7 and I find depending on make, I’m either size 11 or 12 shoes. Also have pretty big hands (or long fingers at least). I’ve always thought of my hands and feet as big puppy paws that I never grew into lmao.

Yeah, I read this first thing in the morning and replied before even checking what community it is. Probably should’ve deleted this but also, maybe it’s a good discussion to have around here.

I know that you’re right but it just feels hopeless. You say that I should have empathy but honestly what I worry about the most is that the people we’re talking about here have no empathy of their own. Because I can’t help but wonder, don’t these kids have mothers and sisters that they look at and at least feel a little bit bad about the circles they spend time in and the ideology they believe in? It’s a strange mix of disgust and despair that I feel about this. Because I feel like trying to appeal to the good nature of mother’s sons that listen to rapists in the first place is a lost cause.

But I could just be bitter. And facing my own gender wars internally and projecting. I’ve actually been trying to stay away from these conversations because I’m not sure if I can be anything but angry at this point.

This from the same people who are apparently so worried about loneliness in men.

Either either or either, depending on maybe the context or the phonetics of words used. Kinda like how you say the or the depending on if the next word starts with a vowel or not.

More anecdotal stuff but from lurking in autism spaces I’ve picked up that the feeling ‘younger’ or like a child compared to your peers thing is also felt by a lot of autistic people.

Personally, I’m starting to think that it’s just one of the ways that our brains deal with feeling like an ‘other’ compared to general society. When it’s clear to you that your mind just isn’t working in the same way, certain things just don’t come as easily to you and that something is definitely ‘wrong’, I guess it makes sense that our minds would register that as also being ‘lesser’ or not as developed.

I know that my whole life before I started asking certain questions, I’ve always felt like I’m still a child in the company of men in particular. That’s how my brain registered my particular brand of ‘otherness’ my whole life. Which might indicate some sort of internalized misogyny or something. But I’m starting to think that feeling like a child or immature in some way is probably an almost universal thing that people who don’t fit in with everyone else feel at some point.

Wish I didn’t have to but in my country pretty much everyone still uses it. So if I want to keep in touch with people that I know irl or if I want to keep an eye open for gigs to go watch or whatever events that I might want to go to, I have to keep it around.