• papertowels@lemmy.one
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      17 hours ago

      Fuck those people who expect you to have no emotions. Red relationship flag if I ever saw one - they didn’t think of you as a person, just an idea.

      One of the most impactful things my wife said to me was “it’s okay to not be okay”.

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        12 hours ago

        Ok but that’s like, almost every woman. It’s not just the occasional shithead, it’s a systemic thing.

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          12 hours ago

          I’m sorry that you’ve had experiences that led you to this conclusion :( that’s a lot of bullshit that nobody should go through. You’re a person with your own very valid emotions that should be expressed, not an idea of someone’s “man” that they’ve built up in their heads. Fuck the ones that try to force you into their template.

          I don’t have a very diverse dating experience. I’ve only had a handful of relationships but they were all with decent people, and I’m still friends with all of them - in fact one of them was my best ma’am at my wedding.

          The good ones are out there - don’t settle for less and I wish you the best of luck in meeting them.

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      21 hours ago

      I’m sorry. That’s so shitty. I really don’t get women who are like that. The ability to express emotion (in a healthy way) is one of the most attractive traits one can have, imo.

      My AMAB (and non-binary, though they didnt realize that until like 9 years into our relationship) partner has cried in front of me COUNTLESS times. Because they’re a fucking human being who has feelings. It’s really not hard to understand if you take even just one moment to empathize.