• Joncash2@lemmy.ml
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    3 months ago

    I am about to share way way too much. So I figure I must be fairly attractive for a male, though I don’t consider myself all that attractive. I have been hit on by both women and gay men. Most men on this planet have not, from either.

    Here’s the thing that women don’t get. Even for someone like me it’s few and far between. Like once a decade rare. And the few times it has happened, it did feel pretty good.

    Imagine pining for that. I’m in a happy marriage, but I could imagine how lonely it would be to never have it happen ever.

    So the saddest thing about her response that a straight man is jealous of the attention a 23 year old woman gets truly shows her ignorance. Because, many men would want that. Even if it’s just to get a compliment once.

    It’s a sad world we live in.

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      3 months ago

      That’s one half of the disconnect, women not understanding that men want to be desired every once in a while. The other half of the disconnect is that often men don’t realize how much women get outright harassed from this kind of attention. Both lead to enmity over time.

      I don’t know how to harmonize this on a societal level, other than to remove our physical meatbag forms entirely and become part of a digital hivemind collective consciousness.

    • (⬤ᴥ⬤)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      3 months ago

      it can! but expressing that need through “young women have it better than me” is not healthy. life isn’t a zero sum game

    • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 months ago

      Yeah. Have had that twice. Kind of wish I hadn’t, cause it’s not likely to happen again and now I know what I’m missing