M. 34

The fact I’ll die alone without ever feeling the love, the heat and comfort of a woman plus not having kids saddens me. So I want to know… How does it feel? Being in love and being together, the sex part, just living together, the drawbacks, just tolerate each other and all that…

EDIT: This is similar to a post I did over a week ago, but that just derailed into fights… Please, DON’T GIVE ME ADVICE. I’m fucked, nothing will change, I’m done in this life, I’m invisible, no woman will approach me. Just answer the question or ignore this post.

  • Contramuffin@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    5 months ago

    If you want a real answer, it’s like living with a roommate 100% of the time, with all the positives and negatives that come with having a roommate 100% of the time.

    Don’t believe in all the lovey-dovey stuff that you see in media. That’s just attraction, not love. In some ways it’s similar to war - media always glamorize the emotional aspect of war, while completely skipping over the fact that wars are won through robust logistics networks. Love is similar in that in real life, any physical attraction takes a backstage to the fundamental requirement that everyone needs to be on the same page about basically everything.

    In that respect, it is a lot of communication, and oftentimes it requires a bit too much communication than you are willing to provide. It definitely takes a lot of effort to establish and maintain robust communication with your significant other, especially if you are not used to doing so. But as long as you continue to do so, you basically get a close friend who is always there to help with what you might need