I’ve been using Microsoft todo for a good while now after failing to find any decent private todo tools some while back. To my disappointment, there seems to be nothing much, perhaps with this one exception.
Everdo is one I recently ran into. It is focused on a the “Getting Things Done” Methodology, but if you are uninterested in that you could presumably ignore the extraneous stuff. It offers a local-network sync (pretty unique) as well a hosted E2EE (if I read it correctly) cloud sync service. You can see more here https://help.everdo.net/docs/sync
Privacy policy seems fine https://everdo.net/legal/#privacy-policy
It is local first, albeit on some internal database, not local files
It’s not free. But I don’t want self hosted and Foss is more a nice to have than a requirement (for me)
Yeah sorry, everything in this community that isn’t FOSS and self-hosted gets the downvotes. Because everyone here expects that all people should know how to do self-hosting and use GitHub and forums to fix the single-person maintained FOSS projects.