There’s this guy in my neighbourhood who apparently I find very attractive 😂 I didn’t realize that until recently, I always avoided him until one day I had to talk to him and I turned red and started smiling like an idiot.

This happened twice and both times, when I got home, I started crying… not because of what happened, but it felt as if I was losing something??

All I know about this “reaction” is that this guy isn’t my usual type, I just find him physically attractive and when I get home I cry and think about those guys I actually felt a lot for (mostly platonically) and it hurts 🤕 wtf

And today I was almost telling myself to “stay on track”??? Like thinking about the others and thinking “that’s the life you want, that’s what would make you happy” and just wishing this didn’t have such an effect on me.

  • Colorfulhipp@lemmy.worldOP
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    2 months ago

    Thank you 😊 I don’t get why the downvotes haha Lemmy is such a disappointment for now. I see why you’d think that based on my post and I would totally agree with that, were it the case.

    The other guys I’m referring to were not what society is pushing me towards though! At least the way I see it. They were into arts and getting involved with it, hanging with “unusual” people (always to mean what’s expected and what’s not). They actually helped me go through many changes, just meeting them had this effect, I was in university and they had a big impact on me.

    While with this guy, I think my brain is going “if something happened it would be it” like bye bye to all you ever wanted, don’t fall into that trap. Idk why. But it’s the opposite of what you said: I could never have something long term with those other guys and didn’t even want to, and I loved it that way. This guy and what he looks like for now would be normal and expected (just to follow this line of thought)

    • thepreciousboar@lemm.ee
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      2 months ago

      He was downvoted because saying “you guys have attraction for two types of guys” show a clear lack of understanding the complexity of the human kind. You can’t generalize and say that every single woman is attracted to two categories of men or at best a combination of two, that’s not how it works

    • Azzu@lemm.ee
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      2 months ago

      With this answer I would also change my answer. It seems to me simply that you have found “love on first sight”. For some reason this guy’s looks, smell, mannerisms, movements, whatever are all fitting together to make him extremely attractive to you. Seems like not your usual type but as you said, definitely attractive.

      I’m not exactly sure why you cry xD but it could be because you’re feeling regret to not having approached him? Or it could be that you wish some of these other men were “like him” because you would like to be with them, but unfortunately they didn’t have that same spark with you?

      • Colorfulhipp@lemmy.worldOP
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        2 months ago

        Or it could be that you wish some of these other men were “like him” because you would like to be with them, but unfortunately they didn’t have that same spark with you?

        Yes I think this is part of it :( Cause when crying I’m actually crying about the other guys