Tbf, it took me several (rapid) iterations of the idea before my brain settled on a statement of maximum destruction. The reality is that I’d probably laugh and tell her to go fuck herself or just get confused and inform her that I wasn’t intending it to be a date and I’m really not attracted to her in that way; I just thought she might be a cool friend to have (if I’m talking to someone then there’s a decent chance we’re either friends or will be friends in the near future). I imagine both would probably damage her ego as well, but they’d be no where as devastating as my original thought.
In that vein, after I posted my original comment my brain offered me a slightly better one:
“…Sorry [the pause at the moment is important, creates the illusion that her response was unexpected], everyone said I should give you a chance; I just wanted to be nice. I’m really, really sorry. I know you’re a very sweet girl and you’ll find the right person who can see you for your strengths.”
Tbf, it took me several (rapid) iterations of the idea before my brain settled on a statement of maximum destruction. The reality is that I’d probably laugh and tell her to go fuck herself or just get confused and inform her that I wasn’t intending it to be a date and I’m really not attracted to her in that way; I just thought she might be a cool friend to have (if I’m talking to someone then there’s a decent chance we’re either friends or will be friends in the near future). I imagine both would probably damage her ego as well, but they’d be no where as devastating as my original thought.
In that vein, after I posted my original comment my brain offered me a slightly better one:
“…Sorry [the pause at the moment is important, creates the illusion that her response was unexpected], everyone said I should give you a chance; I just wanted to be nice. I’m really, really sorry. I know you’re a very sweet girl and you’ll find the right person who can see you for your strengths.”