Hello gay people in my phone. My child (16) sort of came out as trans to me today. I have been here for the memes for a while, and ive long been a supporter of gay and trans rights.

Do yall have any recommendations of resources for parents of trans kids? I want to help and support them correctly and to the best of my abilities.

Looking for maybe books and communities? Thank you.

  • Ookami38@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    Sounds like you’re doing alright. I’d say keep doing as you’re doing. Don’t change anything unless asked - make this whole thing seem completely normal. Just be attentive and listen to your child. You probably won’t understand, at least not fully, a lot of what they’re going through. No matter how hard you try, unless you experience it yourself, it’s pretty much impossible, like seeing a new color. Be open to that fact, that things are quite simply fundamentally different from their perspective.

    Be a safe space. It sounds like you already are. Keep doing that. No matter the situation the two of you are involved in, your priority is their livelihood. Safety, autonomy, backup, whatever they need in order to provide that.

    They were comfortable enough with you to tell you, and ahead of two others who might have a similar “right” to know. Your response was to provide the support you immediately could, and seek assistance otherwise. Keep doing what you’re doing, bud.

    • magic_smoke@links.hackliberty.org
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      2 months ago

      That last bit seems kinda selfish. I mean maybe don’t listen to me because I’m not trans and I wouldn’t know firsthand, but the world seems to be pretty shitty to transfolk.

      Not that you shouldn’t support your trans kids, I just don’t know you should be wishing for something that would probably make their life more difficult.

      I spose in a better world it would be no different than specifically wanting a daughter or a son, but even then gender dysphoria seems like all kinds of not fun.