Your dad sounds awesome. English culture is far too ridiculous about prudishness IMO… but I was raised in a Christian extremist cult like organisation and like eccentricity (after escaping that nonsense).
I’d find it more than a bit embarrassing if my father was posting “daughter swap” porn videos on social media. I hope to god OP is a male and has no sisters at the very least
Not OP but personally I wouldn’t necessarily need or want to know what my dad is getting off to and when. With close friends it’s different, we do have some fairly open conversations about what we (don’t) like, but we also do not announce to each other “hey btw, I’m gonna jack off now!!”
At one of the bike shops I worked at we had small penis contests; biggest cock bought the crew lunch… roadies are weird.
I’d rather anyone tie a necktie on a door handle versus not; friends, folks, sister, solo, gang, whatever. Sex is normal behavior for all humans and should not be made awkward or taboo. It is unhealthy to the individual and society to make sex inaccessible or unspeakable. Every human masturbates with very few exceptions. It has nothing to do with relationships. Releasing tension is healthy and normal. Talking openly about sex is beneficial to society in many ways.
Guess it just depends on the audience. When I was deployed and the power went out for 4 hours we (about a dozen of us) had a several hour long debate on who the most talented porn star was. For some that’s not a weird conversation, for others… Yea they probably think we’re insane.
As I said with friends I’m more open. We’ve discussed kinks and stuff in detail, what we’re into etc.
But the line I draw is at announcing my current masturbation/having sex or whatever. They don’t need to know when I’m masturbating and I don’t need to know when they do either.
We have discussed the frequency with which we do it, and even who among each other we “would hit” so to say. But saying I jack off four times per week is different from saying “hey heads up, you’re in a different city but I want you to know I’m horny as fuck and gonna get some good porn to watch now. Maybe I’ll even think about you lol”
Don't know your age, but at 40 here, I wish I had been raised in a world where Maslow's hierarchy was heralded as the fundamental benchmark of human needs like it is in psychology. Sex is part of that, and in a healthy life and culture it really should be as common to accept and talk about as the other equivocal needs at the same level.
Taking a shit is natural but that doesn’t mean I want to be subjected to hearing what your morning BM consisted of. Some subjects are rude to broach without making sure the person you’re talking to is open to it.
Your own image labels it as “sexual initimacy”, which is a very different thing than sexual openness. Both of those, and having frank talks about needs, are also worlds away from “I post my porn choices on fucking facebook”.
I get that envisioning the path to proper sexual intimacy can be frustrating and confusing when you feel like you aren’t having your needs met…
but there’s a drastic difference between a parent telling their kid that it’s okay to touch yourself and having a discussion about appropriate time/place (and that porn isn’t realistic, the dangers of forming opinions and expectations based on it, the concepts of kinks and preferences, consent, etc etc there is a lot that people don’t get any proper guidance on), and a parent doing the equivalent of “Yo! Did you see this shit? Makes me rock fucking hard my man! Hot AF!” in front of their kid and potentially in public.
The proper response to trauma/repression usually isn’t to go to the opposite extreme. A boy who grew up in a household where his father beat his mother shouldn’t cut off his own hands to try and prevent himself from beating his own SO.
Sexual intimacy is an extension of intimacy, and it shouldn’t be nearly as “hush hush learn it on your own the hard way” as it is. Intimacy in general should be discussed more. I’ve had some wonderfully illuminating, quite explicit discussions with some of my closest friends (with no sexual tension between us. Life isn’t porn).
But again, big big difference between even something as blatant as “Hey, don’t shy away from being on the recieving end of ass play unless you know it’s not your thing.” (paraphrase of discussion among close friends, all straight men) and sharing “Did you see the new clip? Fucking hawt! My rope hit the fucking ceiling!” to the public.
I one hundred percent agree. People take most of what I say outside of the context of my abstractions. I like to use hyperbole a little more than I should, and I choose to withhold judgment in most cases. With something like the OP’s situation, I’m amused by the unexpected nature of the situation and using that as a hyperbolic pivot but am not saying it should be normalized to post about porn per say. I asked the question to get a better feel for how I perceive the situation. I can’t imagine anyone in my family doing this because they are religious extremists. I don’t have to worry about it anyways as I’m in near total social isolation due to physical disability.
Your dad sounds awesome. English culture is far too ridiculous about prudishness IMO… but I was raised in a Christian extremist cult like organisation and like eccentricity (after escaping that nonsense).
Why do you find this disturbing?
I’d find it more than a bit embarrassing if my father was posting “daughter swap” porn videos on social media. I hope to god OP is a male and has no sisters at the very least
OP responded that she’s a she. So… yeah. Not great
German midget scat porn can be disturbing to some, apparently…
Ofcourse, who likes German?
Not OP but personally I wouldn’t necessarily need or want to know what my dad is getting off to and when. With close friends it’s different, we do have some fairly open conversations about what we (don’t) like, but we also do not announce to each other “hey btw, I’m gonna jack off now!!”
At one of the bike shops I worked at we had small penis contests; biggest cock bought the crew lunch… roadies are weird.
I’d rather anyone tie a necktie on a door handle versus not; friends, folks, sister, solo, gang, whatever. Sex is normal behavior for all humans and should not be made awkward or taboo. It is unhealthy to the individual and society to make sex inaccessible or unspeakable. Every human masturbates with very few exceptions. It has nothing to do with relationships. Releasing tension is healthy and normal. Talking openly about sex is beneficial to society in many ways.
Guess it just depends on the audience. When I was deployed and the power went out for 4 hours we (about a dozen of us) had a several hour long debate on who the most talented porn star was. For some that’s not a weird conversation, for others… Yea they probably think we’re insane.
As I said with friends I’m more open. We’ve discussed kinks and stuff in detail, what we’re into etc.
But the line I draw is at announcing my current masturbation/having sex or whatever. They don’t need to know when I’m masturbating and I don’t need to know when they do either.
We have discussed the frequency with which we do it, and even who among each other we “would hit” so to say. But saying I jack off four times per week is different from saying “hey heads up, you’re in a different city but I want you to know I’m horny as fuck and gonna get some good porn to watch now. Maybe I’ll even think about you lol”
Just find it a bit of an embarrassing thing to share on social media.
Don't know your age, but at 40 here, I wish I had been raised in a world where Maslow's hierarchy was heralded as the fundamental benchmark of human needs like it is in psychology. Sex is part of that, and in a healthy life and culture it really should be as common to accept and talk about as the other equivocal needs at the same level.
Taking a shit is natural but that doesn’t mean I want to be subjected to hearing what your morning BM consisted of. Some subjects are rude to broach without making sure the person you’re talking to is open to it.
Your own image labels it as “sexual initimacy”, which is a very different thing than sexual openness. Both of those, and having frank talks about needs, are also worlds away from “I post my porn choices on fucking facebook”.
I get that envisioning the path to proper sexual intimacy can be frustrating and confusing when you feel like you aren’t having your needs met…
but there’s a drastic difference between a parent telling their kid that it’s okay to touch yourself and having a discussion about appropriate time/place (and that porn isn’t realistic, the dangers of forming opinions and expectations based on it, the concepts of kinks and preferences, consent, etc etc there is a lot that people don’t get any proper guidance on), and a parent doing the equivalent of “Yo! Did you see this shit? Makes me rock fucking hard my man! Hot AF!” in front of their kid and potentially in public.
The proper response to trauma/repression usually isn’t to go to the opposite extreme. A boy who grew up in a household where his father beat his mother shouldn’t cut off his own hands to try and prevent himself from beating his own SO.
Sexual intimacy is an extension of intimacy, and it shouldn’t be nearly as “hush hush learn it on your own the hard way” as it is. Intimacy in general should be discussed more. I’ve had some wonderfully illuminating, quite explicit discussions with some of my closest friends (with no sexual tension between us. Life isn’t porn).
But again, big big difference between even something as blatant as “Hey, don’t shy away from being on the recieving end of ass play unless you know it’s not your thing.” (paraphrase of discussion among close friends, all straight men) and sharing “Did you see the new clip? Fucking hawt! My rope hit the fucking ceiling!” to the public.
I one hundred percent agree. People take most of what I say outside of the context of my abstractions. I like to use hyperbole a little more than I should, and I choose to withhold judgment in most cases. With something like the OP’s situation, I’m amused by the unexpected nature of the situation and using that as a hyperbolic pivot but am not saying it should be normalized to post about porn per say. I asked the question to get a better feel for how I perceive the situation. I can’t imagine anyone in my family doing this because they are religious extremists. I don’t have to worry about it anyways as I’m in near total social isolation due to physical disability.