54m here, married for 19 years.
My wife has a very demanding career, so really needs her hobbies to let go of the stress. What I do is listen when she’s talking about what has her interests. Then if there is anything I can do to facilitate it, it will suddenly materialize. This is not always something expensive or even something material.
Just before COVID the entire family got into playing D&D. Being an artist my wife went bonkers on painting miniatures. So I made sure she had all the paints and brushes she needed. Plus, the dining room, which is actually our “hobby” room, got a lighting upgrade
How bonkers did she get? This bonkers and there are many many more:
Rawr!
(It means I love you in dinosaur)
My wife and I tell each other we love each other an obnoxious amount.
Not so long ago, she developed a throat infection that stopped her from being able to talk for a while. So now we have a new way if saying it, three little squeezes.
Does infodumping count?
Navigating bureaucracy for someone else
Gave my brother my mullvad account so he can use a VPN and his PC and taught him how to pirate. Which browser, which sites to trust… Even walked him through a manjaro install over the phone. I often clean his PC for him when ever I’m over.
Built my ex a cute itx PC in turquoise. Dinky little thing.
Washing the dishes, or cleaning up after yourself tells me that you love me and you in a way that words can’t express
I once put an entire watermelon under the wipers on my friends car like a parking ticket when I knew they had a rough day at work. They like watermelon.
I loved it when my ex would act like a child to put something stupid into context.
My partner just kinda gnaws on my upper arm. Straight up asked her to stop early days of us dating and she said something along the lines of “but that’s how I show I love you” and just kept at it.
10 plus years later it’s a wonder my arms haven’t callused over. Love that weirdo
That’s my guilty pleasure as well. I enjoy biting.
LOL, yeah I was pretty surprised when I first started dating my wife and she reared her head back like that old cat video and then clamped her teeth down around my forearm. Now I like it.
My husband always says, “Stop biting me!” but I think he’s faking.
Dude, that’s not your partner, that’s a green anaconda!
Aw fuck, I’ve been bamboozled =(
you warn them you are aware but aren’t complicit to their addictions(hobbies). then you tell them just this time~
you join them anyways.
“Why is there so much yarn everywhere?!”
Two weeks later when the weather cools off - “Can you make a hat for me?”
“I don’t condone this but…”
Lights molotov
Put “never gonna give you up” playing on background every time they leave their PC unlocked
Listen to your SO’s friends and [close] family.
Your SO talks to them about what they really want.
Killing.
Pebbling. Giving small gifts or sharing small pieces of content/info that they are interested in
So, uhh… Do you like boulders?
I take what I can get
They can even be literal pebbles if they’re into that!
Jesus Christ Marie, they’re not rocks. They’re minerals
