My Kiwi accent (despite not being in New Zealand), my abnormally dark irises, my teeth (nothing particularly unusual except a few have an odd shape), my honeymoon rhinitis, my distinct snoring when I sleep, my semi-snorty laugh, my uncanny ability to quote my favorite media, my asexuality (supposing someone were to try to tempt me in ways that would tempt anyone else), my talent in cryptography (or rather certain kinds), my artstyle, and how I elaborately express myself all come to mind.
Can i ask about asexuality? I’ve never heard it described in that way - actually, i guess I’ve never heard it described at all. I don’t really know what my question is.
The reason asexuality isn’t misunderstood that well, I’m guessing, is because there are different forms of it.
Many asexuals don’t get turned on, and these are called non-libidoist asexuals. Many get turned on by people but are asexual because they don’t get turned on by the act of co-pleasure. These are called libidoist asexuals. Some not only don’t get turned on but are averse to what others would consider physical fulfillment.
Unlike other orientations, where it’s typically a fated circumstance, because asexuality pertains to a lack of what it refers to, it’s equally possible to be born with asexuality as well as acquire it later. Someone not born with it could be rendered asexual, for example, through a virus… correct me if I’m wrong but I read somewhere that long covid had a symptom or two like that.
In any category, you can also be asexual and still like companionship (romantic asexuals), or you might not (aromantic asexuals) since companionship is fulfilling another part of us.
Suppose I was facing some kind of Journey to the West type of trial and someone wanted to tempt me, so they bring in some guys who they think are a surefire way to get me to become tempted. It’s not a matter of self-discipline, it simply wouldn’t work as they envisioned. I would walk right through them unaffected. That part of me is to physical temptation what a colorblind person is to color.
I don’t understand how someone knows what/when to label. We all vary from time to time, in different periods of our lives and in different settings and situations. Yeah, health issues and medications can play a big role. When does low or high libido become so far outside the norm (or perceived norm) that it gets labeled?
In shows and movies, a woman kisses a man or unbuttons her blouse and the man suddenly become powerless to resist. Who the heck are these men that are so swayed by a hint of cleavage that they’ll hand over state secrets or their bank pin? And where are they training these women in voodoo kisses?
Honeymoon rhinitis is a phenomenon where some peoples’ nose gets stuffed up when aroused. It’s similar to people who say they look at bright light and sneeze. If I’m near a crush, I sound like I have the sniffles.
My Kiwi accent (despite not being in New Zealand), my abnormally dark irises, my teeth (nothing particularly unusual except a few have an odd shape), my honeymoon rhinitis, my distinct snoring when I sleep, my semi-snorty laugh, my uncanny ability to quote my favorite media, my asexuality (supposing someone were to try to tempt me in ways that would tempt anyone else), my talent in cryptography (or rather certain kinds), my art style, and how I elaborately express myself all come to mind.
Can i ask about asexuality? I’ve never heard it described in that way - actually, i guess I’ve never heard it described at all. I don’t really know what my question is.
The reason asexuality isn’t misunderstood that well, I’m guessing, is because there are different forms of it.
Many asexuals don’t get turned on, and these are called non-libidoist asexuals. Many get turned on by people but are asexual because they don’t get turned on by the act of co-pleasure. These are called libidoist asexuals. Some not only don’t get turned on but are averse to what others would consider physical fulfillment.
Unlike other orientations, where it’s typically a fated circumstance, because asexuality pertains to a lack of what it refers to, it’s equally possible to be born with asexuality as well as acquire it later. Someone not born with it could be rendered asexual, for example, through a virus… correct me if I’m wrong but I read somewhere that long covid had a symptom or two like that.
In any category, you can also be asexual and still like companionship (romantic asexuals), or you might not (aromantic asexuals) since companionship is fulfilling another part of us.
Suppose I was facing some kind of Journey to the West type of trial and someone wanted to tempt me, so they bring in some guys who they think are a surefire way to get me to become tempted. It’s not a matter of self-discipline, it simply wouldn’t work as they envisioned. I would walk right through them unaffected. That part of me is to physical temptation what a colorblind person is to color.
I don’t understand how someone knows what/when to label. We all vary from time to time, in different periods of our lives and in different settings and situations. Yeah, health issues and medications can play a big role. When does low or high libido become so far outside the norm (or perceived norm) that it gets labeled?
In shows and movies, a woman kisses a man or unbuttons her blouse and the man suddenly become powerless to resist. Who the heck are these men that are so swayed by a hint of cleavage that they’ll hand over state secrets or their bank pin? And where are they training these women in voodoo kisses?
Sorry, I have to ask about honeymoon rhinitis, you are allergic to traveling but only if you were recently married?
Honeymoon rhinitis is a phenomenon where some peoples’ nose gets stuffed up when aroused. It’s similar to people who say they look at bright light and sneeze. If I’m near a crush, I sound like I have the sniffles.