Deep inside I wish all of you say “no, it wasn’t” so I can cope with the fact I’ll die alone more peacefully… But I guess I can’t control y’all, so be honest or whatever.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    As much fun as it can be to wallow in self pity…

    I think you would benefit more from a perspective adjustment.

    Why do you think you’ll be alone forever?

    If the answer is “I’m not attractive/rich/charming/popular enough” you’re absolutely wrong. Most of us don’t give a shit about those things. Sure, they might make it easier to get someone’s attention, but those aren’t what makes a great relationship.

    What has been your process for meeting and building relationships with others? I bet there’s a lot more you can control than you think.

    This is coming from a fat, shy, dork whose hobbies include video games, D&D, and mind altering substances. Never been a “Playa’”, but I have been married twice and I have three biological children. If a dope like me can pull it off, anyone can.

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      12 days ago

      Oh, I don’t think your look is a problem, I’ve seen hideous people (not You) with families. The problem is me, I’m a failed adult, I’m unable to socialise, hate pretty much anything popular or social and I don’t have job, car, own place. Plus I’m an immigrant. I don’t have a process, I’m empty, hollow. You sound more successful.