Deep inside I wish all of you say “no, it wasn’t” so I can cope with the fact I’ll die alone more peacefully… But I guess I can’t control y’all, so be honest or whatever.

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    There is no one right or wrong way to have a relationship. My SO and I have a relationship where we can do all the fun things we did alone, but together in the same room. I can put on headphones and play video games for 8 hours straight, she doesn’t care. Relationships aren’t all a box that have to fit a standard.

    What I will say OP is that the attitude you have is probably doing more harm to you getting in a relationship then anything else. Your resentment and assumptions that you’ll die alone will push away more people than it will pull in, and it quickly becomes a vicious cycle. Trust me, I know, I was down that path quite deep. It wasn’t until a very good friend put in a lot of time and patience to help show me that it was me who was doing the most harm to myself, not society. If it wasn’t for them, I wouldn’t be where I am today.

    Start working on yourself, OP, we’re all rooting for you. I won’t lie, it’s not a fun path, but it’s a very rewarding one.

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      I already gave up. Is sad and I’m miserable but I can’t change my world, I’m like a ghost… but thanks anyways

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        You’re alive so you still have the option. We are all responsible for our own happiness. Invest in yourself and things will improve. Force yourself to go outside your comfort zone. Even if that is to go to a coffeeshop by yourself and read a book. You can do it OP

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          Force myself is something I just I’m unable to do. And I’ve been ALONE in restaurants and similars for over a decade. Is depressing.