Drag is a fun concept.

I’m saying humans, even ones opponents are complex and seldom governed by single motives. Most people understand it about themself but like to deny it to others, especially they disagree with or don’t like.

That does not even make any sense.

Thinking that people you don’t like are one dimensional won’t bring you very far.

Again if it’s just power and money then they would be very much interested in continuation of human spices.

I was just pointing out a flaw in your reasoning. There are no simple answers to complex questions.

Extinction would kind of interfere with the whole power and money thing.

Reducing human behavior to a single hormone is a choice that is not very representative of reality.

What do you mean by negative spin? You don’t think that for example extreme competitiveness can be negative - or what is the point you are trying to make.

We have mostly the same chemicals just different concentrations. Also humans in general show wide variability of behavior, it helps to get out there to realize we are all very similar and different at the same time and there is almost no benefit in thinking in gigantic buckets that encompass half of us.

And what exactly out of those things is considered to be toxic in general or is it more that the extreme forms of those things are considered to be toxic?

Genuine question. What is standard male behavior?

“If I was given a choice to be stranded in the woods with either a bear or a woman, I would choose the bear, because the bear wouldn’t accuse me of raping it if I ignored it.”

Seem like you are actually in a place to understand from your own experience what women are trying to communicate with that whole bear thing. Next step would be to try to have an empathic connection instead of a defensive one. The anger and frustration are not directed at you as an individual but are an expression of experiences, those nuances are often lost in online, non personal communication. What helps is to have more personal communication, better in an offline environment.

Made me realize (hyperbole) how literal people are, how ready some are to dig their heels in and not interested in listening at all. If one ever had a conversation with a women (hyperbole), the unsafe feeling is something that comes up pretty often (I guess the women has to feel safe around you - so maybe there is that) and is sadly based on personal negative experiences they had.

Sure. From my point of view man and women both struggle from the same societal structures, be it in quite different ways. Feminism addressees those societal structures from the perspective of women and in more recent times other marginalized groups. While sure it’s not a lens specifically developed to view male issues, for me personally it’s been a helpful tool to empathize with women in general and to question societal or interpersonal structures (like man has to be the provider for the family or what the hell is family anyway?). You have a rather antagonistic view on feminism, maybe based on your own negative experiences or maybe influenced by certain media bubbles. So you might not find the discussions in this community very helpful.

There is a history behind the term and why it is used.

Non feminist male communities tend to devolve into misogynistic places. What exactly is your problem with feminism, except the name?