I’m not entirely sure, I’ve heard that defederation breaks subscriptions and stops new content from flowing in, but I’ve also heard that it only stops content from flowing in from the server they’re blocking. It’s hard to say. I would definitely recommend creating an account there though if you’re intio those communities or queer content in general. I’m still thinking of doing it myself soon, just haven’t gotten around to it yet.

I wish we had more trains here. Been watching Not Just Bikes and it seems so nice to not need to drive places. Owning a car is so expensive.

Agreed, I wish they’d stop with this whole discourse. Just let me fucking take estrogen. I’ve been waiting months and talking to a therapist, if I don’t get it by march I’d doing DIY. I encourage others to join me, no more shit, no more games. Just Do It.

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That’s not enough they have to be okay with or even in support of transgender rights. Not caring means they’ll either do nothing or work against us. I will not stand for either.

Modern conservatism is a cancer that deserves and needs to be squashed out. It has an outright dangerous and seductive quality to it. It took me years to get over it many people don’t ever get out of it.

So echo chamber argument isn’t a good one. If anything modern conservatism is itself an echo chamber, that squashes all opposing viewpoints.

I agree, and I personally would not hold it against the lemmy.blahaj.zone admins if they chose to defederate lemm.ee on that basis. Admins need to stand up and be willing to “interfere” with communities to uphold order and standards or the instance becomes a toxic cesspit very quickly.

As someone who used to be stuck in that I couldn’t agree more. It absolutely is a lack of empathy and cognitive ability, but also it persists because they think it’s cool and accepted. I know that’s why I followed it as long as I did. So I say block it. It doesn’t do anyone any good and the less people see it the less they’ll think its cool.

The admins of lemm.ee are well aware of that community. From what I understand they choose to allow mods to run their communities how they see fit and rarely decide to interfere with them. Doesn’t seem great, seems like a system that’ll let shit like this happen over and over in the future.

Yeah, though I am more flexible than most people when it comes to that. Many people are either tops or bottoms mostly, I’m happy with both.

I never feel bad for correcting them when they self-incorrect themselves. I tend to be more on the aggressive side when someone gets it right the first time but then goes “sorry sir”. One time I went off on a waitress for doing it, and she looked so scared and deeply regretted it, she looked like she was going to cry. After the meal when she brought the check she apologized profusely for misgendering me. So I think being a bitch about being misgendered is sometimes a good thing. When I’ve been nice people are pleasant but end up forgetting. But when I’m a bitch, they remember.

It’s like spritzing a cat’s face with water to get them to stop doing that thing they shouldn’t be doing. Unpleasant but necessary.

I don’t mind. I like all kinds of women, cis, trans, tops, bottoms. I just like women.

I think a big part of it is just that many want control, they want to limit what we’re capable of doing. They especially don’t want us doing things that go against them and their will as companies. Which is why they try to block us from doing those things they dislike so much, like generating porn, or discussing violent content.

I noticed that certain prompts people used for the purpose of AI poisoning are now marked as against the terms of service on ChatGPT so the whole “control” thing doesn’t seem so crazy.

As a transfem tomboy I fully support this. I’ve already had my fair share of people arguing that I’m not really a trans girl because I like masculine things, because I still have a mustache, because I don’t try to have a super fem voice. People assuming someone is or isn’t a particular gender based on how they present is shitty and will always be shitty. Fuck people who do that. I’m glad these people aren’t welcome in our communities.

I can open it for ya, I’m transfem but I’m quite strong.

Well at first I never really thought I was, I like all manners of masculine things like shooter games, sports, fixing cars, getting dirty. Things that are largely considered manly. However I did like to hang out with girls more often, like I felt more comfortable around them. I never really questioned that much it felt normal. But I met someone a few months back who was very much like me, we shared a lot of interests and even had a similar style and when I learned she’s transfem it made me seriously start questioning. So I decided to have a little experiment and I asked her to call me by she/her pronouns to see how it felt, and I loved it. It felt so right, so true. A bit later I started to realize that I felt incomplete, my flat and empty chest made me feel discomfort and sadness.

That’s how I knew without a doubt that I was transfem, and every piece of trans literature I read including Gender Dysphoria Bible just cemented that in further.

Speaking from experience as a trans woman myself, the best advice I can give is follow your heart and do what makes you happy. I’d recommend finding some local trans communities where you live, and also getting a gender affirming therapist to talk to, these things have been helpful to me.

I’m not a fan of this meme, it seems too much to imply that a person who doesn’t take HRT or hasn’t taken HRT is still cis because of it, transmedicalism is not cool.

Understandable, I meant it as a way to stand up for trans people who are non-op or pre-op (can’t afford surgery or can’t get it at all) and being discriminated against based on their genitals.

Also my comment was directed towards a transphobic shithead who was spouting transphobia apologia saying that we shouldn’t fight back against transphobes because “they’re people too”.

Transfem tomboy power 😎🏳️‍⚧️💪