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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • Me? Absolutely. And I make a decent-ish (edit: idk ‘lower-ish’) middle class income. I’m afraid, actively, at spending a couple hundred or a thousand dollars on home upkeep items. I’m afraid, and anxious about paying more for a lawyer in the divorce. I’m afraid and anxious about my wife seeking equity, which isn’t a real or realistic number, in the divorce compared to paid mortgage which is real and measurable. I’m afraid and anxious about my finances and how she hasn’t contributed to the house or her 401K or our investment account in any way for months but expects what she feels like she’s entitled to. I’m afraid and anxious that she might wager equity against lawyering up.

    But, in the end… my buy-out offer to retain the house WILL be better than what she gets from trying to sue for equity, after repairs, closing costs, and contested lawyer fees. And that, that puts a smile on my face.


  • I had ‘a little’ thinning back in 2013, and immediately went fully bald shaving my head 3x a week since then. Our appearances and acceptance of it depends on your ability to come to terms, identify and personify with the truth of the matter and your decisions.

    I had thinning. I said fuck it and told myself how I would identify, instead of letting my genetics get the better part of me. I was in my early 20s. I’ve been bald since and when people know you as bald, they don’t judge you like people who knew you with hair.

    Go all in, make it who you are, stop caring about hair, and people, and their opinions (if they matter), will follow. (That being said, don’t be bald with a stache, unless you’re ready for that kind of judgement. In my field it’s pretty common, and so are the ‘pedo stache’ jokes. You just have to ignore them. For clarity, I’m bald with a mustache.)