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  • I was a little bit younger than you are when I went no-contact with my family. I have also been disabled since I was 19, and later in life was diagnosed with ADHD and a Cluster C personality disorder (I’m goddam terrified of everything). I very much relate to that feeling of “I should be/wish I was dead by now”.

    It’s hard, I won’t lie to you. There have been times I wished I had a family to rely on, but once the wishful thinking wears off, I realize they’d just make whatever I was going through so much harder. Also, my mother has narcissistic tendencies, and my moments of happiness and accomplishment are mine now. That one change was huge for my self-esteem and confidence. Eventually you’ll become your own person and not intrinsically linking everything you do and are to your parents.

    I’m in my late 30s now, and I’m going to graduate with a BS very soon. There’s a lot more help for college students in the US than I think many people are aware. You’re disabled so you qualify for TRIO support. I have worked for TRIO in two capacities, and one of the things we do is help people find and apply for scholarships. You also have the option of doing a work-study (at my uni you can be paid $3500/semester). I currently work for upward bound, the TRIO program for high schoolers, and one of the things I do with them is help them find colleges that fit them. I’m more than happy to help you figure out what is a good fit for you and start working on scholarships! I’ve also moved around a lot, so I might be able to point you towards cities that you’d like.

    Something very cool is that some US universities have sister universities abroad, so you can take part in an exchange program. My university has a sister uni in Ireland. There are also work study programs abroad in almost every continent (you could spend a paid-for summer in Thailand, for example).

    Right now I’m looking to get my doctorate in Europe. It is possible to be disabled and achieve academic success! I had a hard time learning that I can trust people for support, but you’re already far ahead of where I was at your age. You’ve got this!



  • Not all articles that are peer-reviewed and given a doi are credible. Peer reviewers are directly contacted by the editor(s) of a journal, this can introduce bias. That journal, its current and past editor, and the sources of the opinion article have all been advised of bias.

    I already had them tagged as “Richard Dawkins lover”, had to laugh when the article they posted had Dawkins as a source almost immediately.





  • That’s admirable that you want to be able to respond to arguments in a more thoughtful way, and I’m sorry people were assuming otherwise. I can’t really condense the entire semester of my developmental biology class into a comment, but I tried to give you terms to explore and learn more about.

    I read the edit to your original comment and I think you’re on the right path!


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    The term that might help you is “oogenesis”.

    Essentially once cells have begun dividing following fertilization some are set apart as germ cells. These are the cells that eventually become gametes. The thing is, like I tried to mention in my last reply to that guy, it isn’t strictly chromosomes that determine what these cells become in humans. Lots of genetic transcription and translation factors, hormones and hormone receptors, ligands and so on are involved. Sometimes those cells don’t even make it into the gonad, they die, and are absorbed by the embryo’s body.

    This is why sex isn’t a binary, there is a spectrum of outcomes following gametogenesis, including a lack of gametes. Statistically it is most likely for a person who is born XX to have primary and secondary female sex characteristics. But that doesn’t mean people who fall outside of that aren’t also “biologically” women. If you define a woman as someone that is born with eggs, you deny womanhood to millions of people that would otherwise be considered a cis-woman by outdated standards.

    That person stated one argument and then kept changing it, eventually arguing that we just weren’t understanding his words. Either he’s willfully ignorant and pushing a definition that is not taught in American universities, or he has an agenda. And the refusal to acknowledge the 30+ comments telling him he is wrong really suggests that there is an agenda.