Thing is most likely you wouldn’t be in an afterlife or be able to see anything or anyone, you would just cease to exist and you would be doing just as much experiencing and thinking as you did before you were born. So being remembered is a way of extending your existence by living in the minds of those you impacted in your life and knowing you made a difference, that it was worth you being born.
How important is being able to “pass” as an aspect of being stealth? If someone is ever able to tell you transitioned or inquire about whether you have after interacting with you, do you feel like you would not be stealth? Or is it more about not being singled or pointed out by strangers? Or perhaps since the last of your transitioning, no one has even been able to tell unless you told them like your hubby