The linked post shows how most non-tech people’s understanding of email is very very different from most of the people here.

  • Blaze (he/him)@feddit.orgEnglish
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    26 days ago

    Long story short, there is no ideal generalist instance. If you open the top 20 instances (https://fedidb.org/software/lemmy/)

    • Lemmy.world is too big
    • Lemm.ee is federated with hexbear and lemmygrad, something that is not very welcoming to new users (see this thread: https://sh.itjust.works/post/28798607/15305964 )
    • sh.itjust.works names contains “shit”, which can deter users
    • lemmy.ca is Canadian-centric
    • feddit.org, as you mentioned, is German-centric, but technically English speaking too
    • dbzer0 federated hexbear
    • programming.dev is topic-centric (and has a database corruption for the last month https://programming.dev/post/20515601?scrollToComments=true)
    • blahaj is queer-focused
    • discuss.tchncs.de has a difficult name
    • lemmy.sdf.org does not defederate anyone
    • lemmy.zip is federated with hexbear and lemmygrad
    • sopuli.xyz doesn’t have “lemmy” or “feddit” in its name
    • beehaw is way outdated
    • infosec.pub is topic-centric
    • aussie.zone is country-centric
    • midwest.social is region-centric

    The next page has reddthat.com which is known to have federation issues with LW due to its location in Australia, and lemmy.today which does not defederate anyone

    • TheFogan@programming.devEnglish
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      24 days ago

      Honestly I’d say lemmy.world is probably the ideal for redditors, I agree it’s too big, but it’s probably the safest option for people without a lot of knowledge. sh.itjustworks is also IMO fine if you know the person isn’t offended by language.