Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit was EDIT this link is an OLD POST that contains my thesis on the state of lemmy and is not the context of the much more recent comment in the screenshot. sorry for any confusion caused by this juxtaposition, my main goal with having this linked is to expose how nothing has improved
There are plenty of comments in that thread that express the same sentiment and have plenty of upvotes. The problem was that commenter came hot out the gate aggressive and putting words in people’s mouths.
I didn’t see anyone in that thread claiming that women were obligated to have sex with anyone, just a couple people saying they thought it was a tactical mistake for women to withhold sex from people they want to have sex with.
The commenter this was in reply to was definitely more wrong than right, but other comments explained why way better and were up upvoted for it.
it’s a tongue in cheek response against a wildly inappropriate comment blaming women for their victimhood. certain people hate to be called out for their violence-enabling rhetoric and that’s precisely what’s happening here.
And yet, based on context clues (upvotes on other replies), we can guess that the downvotes on that comment are based on its tone and not based on its message, which other comments delivered quite successfully. This is the exact definition of cherrypicking.
“oh noooo the comment defending women for being inexcusably insulted for wanting to preserve a modicum of dignity used sarcasm?”
tone policing behavior like yours makes this site miserable
You seem really invested in this being an example of sexism, regardless of what any evidence suggests. It seems incredibly disingenuous to take the most downvoted response and hold it up as emblematic. I’m sure that you can find plenty of real evidence of sexism on the platform and you don’t need to resort to cherrypicking.
Also, on tone policing, I was just telling you what it looks like other people decided to do based on context clues.
“Woman is not made for having sex. Woman is person.”
You’re doing a jig around this statement to refute the idea people weren’t hostile to the person who said this :)
Hostility to a person is not hostility to a message. There were other people saying the same thing and getting upvoted for it :)
No no but that comment boiled it down to a few clear cut words, no bullshit. And that’s the controversial part; the truth of the statement. ‘No cunt indefinitely’ is three words so personally I like it better.
Nobody in that thread wants to listen to a woman actually speak when they can talk over her and feel good about themselves. When she put it plainly they downvoted her. Pretty obvious.
CW misogynist language but for a pro feminist joke
call it 4c instead, cunt cancelled considerably & collectively
you are not wrong but you being right sadly does absolutely nothing to fix the utter tragedy that is Lemmy’s ongoing legacy of being a fucking toxic waste dump if you happen to be a woman
I just feel like it’s always better to use real examples than manufactured ones, and holding up troll comments like this can do more harm than good for the cause.
you should go make your own post :)