Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit was EDIT this link is an OLD POST that contains my thesis on the state of lemmy and is not the context of the much more recent comment in the screenshot. sorry for any confusion caused by this juxtaposition, my main goal with having this linked is to expose how nothing has improved
In keeping with the theme of OP - a few weeks ago, on a post about that horrific case in France where the man got dozens of strangers to rape his wife, a good 70% of replies were some variation on “not all men”, and I posted this meme in reply to one of them, and my reply got removed for breaking the rules (not being civil!), but not a single one of theirs was. This was on one of the main news communities on this site. I blocked it after that, and all the other communities the mods mod. Fuck that noise.
i could tell you were describing [email protected] before i checked your modlog. i am so sorry you had almost identical experiences to me with that mod team which is utterly ill equipped to do their job. :(
Wait, I have a modlog? 😂
But yeah, I’ve seen that team do this same kind of shit quite a few times, where they’ll delete the comment calling out bigotry/trolling for not being “civil” but leave the bigotry/trolling itself. It’s classic tone policing which actively enables that shit, it’s gross. And yet, they’ve managed to monopolise large parts of lemmy, which is a great shame because it’s where most people congregate, but then that’s the beauty of the fediverse, there are plenty of alternative communities, that might not be as active or populated, but all things considered, that’s really not a bad thing. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
ye lemmy has public modlogs, pretty slay https://lemmy.cafe/modlog?userId=6053228 :)
Oh hi, it’s the total stranger you accused of being a rapist in that dumpster fire of a thread. This is not an accurate retelling of what happened. The key difference is that while most other commenters were critical of the messaging in the post’s headline image (“Rapists are always a man”), you responded to them with personal attacks and bigotry.
Ironically, some of the only examples of sexism in the entire thread were from you, including:
fellas is it sexism to echo sentiments long spoken by recognized feminists including bell hooks and Judith Butler?
this site is so silly on occasion.
It’s weird to think that’s something is not sexism just because it’s said by someone who’s a recognised ‘authority’ figure.
Prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination on the basis of sex is not something you should eagerly hand wave just because it’s not your ‘side’.
If you think that quote is an example of sexism, you might be one of the reasons women would choose the bear.
If you believe in original sin and collective guilt for an immutable characteristic, then you are too far gone
It’s fucking awful. I feel guilty for not pushing back harder when the “not all men” crowd shows up, especially in the community I mod. I’ve been giving them too much benefit of the doubt in an attempt to not ruin the vibes. I won’t make that mistake again.
Realistically there’s only so much you can do, and sometimes it seems like for every one you push back against 3 more turn up. And the worst part is that we do our best to avoid them and their spaces, and stay in our own, but they come looking and just, can’t fucking not. And they come from all walks of life and political leanings. (sure, some more than others, but still all). It feels like a losing battle most of the time.
At this point I usually just block and move on, I can’t imagine having to moderate this mess.
It looks like some person is stealing your icon! RUN!