I did not expect this to happen. I followed FairyPrincessLucy for a long time, cuz she’s real nice and seems cool.
Time passes and I noticed how I would feel very bad when watching her do stuff. I was like
damn, she so generally okay with her situation. Wish I was too lol
So I stopped watching her.
Just now I discovered another channel, Melody Nosurname
, and I really, really like her videos! She seems very reasonable and her little character is super cute <3
But here too I noticed how watching the vids made me super uncomfortable.
The representation is nice, for sure, and her videos are of very high quality, I can only recommend them (as in - the videos).
I started by noticing
woah, her tshirt is super cute, I wanna have that too!
Then I continue with
heyo her friend here seems also super cool. Damn wish I had cool friends
And then eventually the classic
damn, I wish I were her
At that point, it’s already over. I end up watching another video and, despite my genuine interest in the topic, I stop it in the middle, close the tab and open Lemmy (and here we are).
Finally I end up watching videos by cis men, like Scott the Woz. They are fine, and I end up not comparing myself to them (since I wouldn’t necessarily want to be them). I also stopped watching feminine people in general online, as they tend to give me a very similar reaction. Just like
yeah, that’s cool that you’re mostly fine with yourself, I am genuinely happy for you that you got lucky during random character creation <3
So anyway…
have you had a period like that before?
How did you deal with it?
Do you watch transfem people? Please share your favs! <3
I also like watching SimplySnaps. Her videos are also really high quality, I just end up not being able to watch them for too long before sad hits :(
additional info about me, if anyone cares
I currently don’t take hrt, but I’m on my way. I’m attending psychological therapy with a really nice tharapist here in Germany.
I struggle to find good words to describe how I feel but slowly I find better words for it.
I’m currently 19 and present myself mostly masculine still, while trying to act very nice, generally acceptable and friendly. So kinda in a way which makes both super sweet queer people <3 <3 <3 <3 and hetero cis queerphobes accept me as just another character. (I work at a school with very mixed ideologies, so I kinda have to).
But oh boi do I have social anxiety, even at home with mother…
EDIT: Changed info about SimplySnaps
I used to have the same issue as well with being envious of how cute other people are and being socially anxious. I’m only 2 years old than you, and I’ve mostly gotten over it and I’m sure you will as well with time.
I think what helps a lot here is working on your self confidence and self love. Chances are, you’re also really cute and awesome just like those people you mentioned above.
Hm you might have a good point with the self-acceptance. Currently I cover my mirrors and try to be as generally acceptable of a character as I can possibly be to try please most people.
That guy I puppetier around is last on that “most people” list though.
Yeah, I used to puppeteer a guy around so more people would like me as well, but I eventually accepted that some people are not going to like me no matter what. It’s really important to be kind to yourself. Be who you want to be, not who others expect you to be ♥️