I say wether, not whether, and anyways, not anyway. I also never remember how to write thorought.

No, but you can see if the answer makes sense and then fact check it using Google if you need to. Which still doesn’t give you 100% gurantee either.

You can ask it much more complex questions than you can google and you can ask follow-up questions too.

You can block bullies. They can continue to waste their time writing mean messages but those will never reach you.

Yeah, I have nothing against masturbation, it’s the porn that’s the issue for me. I have no desire for sex and I struggle to find normal women attractive. Sex is such an essential part of romantic relationships that I have to work this out if I ever want to succeed in one. I’m not sure I can moderate it. I just have to try and quit it entirely and hopefully there comes a day that I don’t even miss it.

I have no issue with this whatsoever. I block people so that I don’t need to see their posts, not that they couldn’t see mine. If you don’t want others reading what you post online, then don’t post online.

Did you actually go for locktober in the literal sense of the term or is that just what sparked the idea?

I often thought that if my partner had been more into femdom we could’ve easily turned this challenge into play. Like I said, I’m really good at coming up with excuses for myself when things are up to me but I’m equally good at keeping my promises to other people. I would’ve gladly handed the key in both figurative and literal sense to someone else and have them decide for me. It’s too late now unfortunelately but I’m not sure if it would’ve worked on the long run either way. While the source of the issue with our sex life was undoubtly me there’s no denying that an overall sexual incompatibility played a role as well. It’s not easy to be a dominant looking guy who aint one. I can only hope I have better luck with the next one.

I’m not from the US. My health insurance doesn’t cover therapy and the one covered by our “free” healthcare is excremely difficult to get into.

Sometimes 8 - 12 hours a day, multiple days in a row. I have no interest in sex at all and yes, that obviously affects my relationships as well as other duties.

Please read my other replies. This has absolutely nothing to do with jealousity or anti-porn attitudes.

What I believe excessive porn use has done to me is that sex has become uninteresting even when it’s available, and I also have physical problems performing when I “force” myself to it. These bad experiences then further reinforce my negative associations with sex, which in turn makes me even less interested in trying the next time. I don’t feel that “mundane arousal” throughout the day - I don’t even know what it means to be horny without physical stimulation. I’ve always felt this way, but it has gotten worse over time (I’m in my mid-thirties now). I can’t know for sure whether it’s all due to porn or if porn just makes it worse, since my porn use preceded my first sexual experiences with another person. If it’s something I was born with, then there’s simply no fixing it even if I cut out porn entirely, but since I can’t know that, I don’t see any other way forward than to try and change the things I can change and see if there’s any improvement.

And I just want to highlight that when I say excessive porn use, I really mean it. I can literally waste 8 to 12 hours on it and then do the same again the next day. Even if I watched porn for an hour every single day it would still be a massive improvement (but I’m intending to do better than that).

Probably so. As with anything, the dose makes the poison.

It’s not that I don’t have other interests or things to do. I think porn (and weed) are ways to escape uncomfortable feelings in my life rather than dealing with them. It also kind of numbs me or makes me lethargic/passive, since I go for the quick and easy reward for low effort rather than the other way around. I don’t even get the same enjoyment from it as I used to, so I just keep upping the dose hoping for the same reward, but I don’t get it - yet I keep doing it.

I don’t disagree but that simply doesn’t feel like a realistic option for me. It’s either way too expensive or too hard to get into.

Being conscious of your reasons and motivations can make it a postive step

That’s kind of the point why I made this thread. At this point the upsides are mostly hypothetical. I have good reason to believe there are positive changes down the road but I lack the evidence and that competes with a fatalistic view that I was “born this way” or that I’ve permanently damaged myself through decades of increasingly excessive porn use. I get that too much is too much, and there’s obviously no downside to cutting back other than how difficult it is, but when the tough times hit it would be reassuring to know there’s light at the end of the tunnel.

Well, that depends on the culture where you live, but at least here in Finland - the sauna capital of the world - it’s perfectly fine. In fact, Finns in general are quite introverted and don’t talk much, but in the sauna you don’t only undress your clothes, you undress titles as well. Everyone is equal there, which makes people more open to starting conversations with strangers. In the past, it was even a place where many political decisions were made.

Sauna is a place where you either chat with other people or sit with your thoughts. It’s blasphemy to bring your phone in there.

Has removable battery and a headphone jack.

Allegedly so. Looking at that rubber seal behind the flimsy back cover doesn’t inspire much confidence however so I’ll keep treating it as if that rating doesn’t exist.

XCover 6 Pro

No. If I add any more requirements for what I need from a phone I’ll go from 1 option to zero.