help this person temporarily alleviate a problem they have

And you mean drinking fucking alcohol lmao. Yeah it’s gonna made them feel better for a minute, sure, lol. And fuck them up even worse after that. It’s like giving drugs to drug addicts, wtf.

in ways that you deem wholesome, that’s patronising.

No onre said “wholesome”. If so, trying to help honeless people is “patronozing” then generally. Goverment is “partonizing”. Organizations that want to help them are “patronizing”.

People on lemmy are SO deranged.